What is in it for me (+)

The question ‘ What is in it for me?’ is commonly asked, if not consciously, then surely it is the driving force behind many of our actions and choices.

Nothing wrong with that, question. If you are investing your resources ( time, energy and maybe even money) into something that has completely nothing in store for your, chances of you being pleased with it are fairly minimal.

Sometimes the answers to  ‘ what is in it for me’, is along the lines of ‘ being accepted’, ‘being left in peace’, ‘ being looked after’, ‘ have harmony in the house’ . So, intrinsically there is nothing in the activity or choice itself that resonates highly with you, but you still go for it.

It is often referred to as ‘ to please others’. And fair due..... that is part of the truth. There are others who have expressed their desires for you to chose this, to do this, they are calling this ‘the best choice’ and like you to agree on it.

However, if these others were insignificant others, somewhere between strangers and acquaintances... they wouldn’t be crucial factor in your decision making process.

But these are significant others, people with whom you’ve got a long term relationship. And so it is not only your wellbeing you are caring for, it is a sensitivity for theirs and the consequences of them being unhappy to your world, that become influential.

So that’s why  you find yourself in a job your parents wanted for you, that is so far away from your natural interests and skills. That is why you find yourself in a fun fair with your children on holiday, while you prefer a botanical garden. That is why your bedroom has flowery wallpaper matching the duvet covers, while your preference is different.

Drifting (far) away, on a daily basis from your natural talents and skills, has more impact on your life than the occasional compromise that stems from your natural ability to care for other people’s wellbeing too.
When you are not exercising, not using your whole palette of natural talents and skills, life looses colour, you lose colour.

Can you bring back the natural colours to your palette?

I think it is possible, since they have never left you, they are and will always be part of the package.
Even if you lost sight of them... they can come back to your awareness, if you invite them to.

Asking the Collective Consciousness daily:” I wonder what my Divine Resonanceis?” will gently wash the years of gathered dust of your true colours and they will introduce themselves gently to your own inner eyes again, at the speed you can handle, keeping in mind all that is harmonious to you too.

Asking anything to the Collective Consciousness adding ‘ divine’, is so much more than ‘ egotistically’  asking ‘ what is in it for me?’ ..... . It is not even meant to be ‘ religious’.

it is asking to made known to you what is in it that resonates (deep down) with you, respecting the wellbeing of all involved. Yours, as well as that of others.