Links me-time and the Knowing (III)

The human mind’s attention span is (at best) about 20 minutes.After 20 minutes, it needs a small break to function at its highest capacity.

When the tension needed to focus weakens, you are:

• Tiring
• Making more and more mistakes
• Missing relevant information

A small quality me-time break of just a few minutes:

• Allows gathered information in the last 20 minutes to be stored properly, which helps you to retrieve it quickly when you need it some other time.
• Recharges you:
  Your soul nips to the Knowing with your current experiences and brings back both new energy and new ideas to either proceed with your task at hand, or decide to invest your time in something else altogether.

Rinse and repeat.....

Your overall performance is better, runs smoother and you'll enjoy the process more.
Using less enegy, achieving more in less time.

SYMYDY and collective consciousness

Anybody who has lived in my close proximity in the last three years has been exposed to one of my guiding phrases: Say ‘yes’, mean ‘yes’ and do ‘yes’.( SYMYDY).

Life runs so much smoother, I find, when people do (‘yes’) what is in line with their own true values (mean ‘yes’) and communicate about their true actions and true values (‘yes’), all openly, without adding extra tension .

Extra tension is added when observable true values that are being known in that instant, are being held back, not allowed to be openly known and taken into account.

What I notice is that most people have developed a form of collective consciousness that I can call sequential. They take one interaction at the time and manage them in sequence of appearance, depending on their perception of the collective in that instant. What is expected of me in the group that I am a part of right now, is the leading question.

They hop from collective to collective and act in line with what appears to be expected, there.

And trust me, when we are in a collective, we are wired to be in touch with what is expected and desired! Our auto-tuning system picks up on that, without fail.

Now, the last 48 hours came with an avalanche of examples where the effects of the sequential approach of collective consciousness were shown to me.

I had to apply quite a lot of (positive= joyful) wonderment to the observations in order to see beyond the various effects it had on me.
Effects that varied between slight puzzlement with an amusing element to it, to complete frustration and anger( depending on the extend I felt thwarted in my rhythm and flow as a result of somebody else’s choices and actions)

I’ll pick an example form the row of examples that was relatively mild in its effects, but also very clear.

It was changeover day in the castle the two of us are looking after.

The guests have agreed to leave at 10 o’clock, giving us enough time to swap the bedding and clean the place before the next guest can arrive, as from 16.00.
It is a vast place, everybody can see that. We need most of that time to get it all done.

As from 9.00 there was busyness, the guests where gathering their things, sticking the rubbish in the wheelie bins etcetera.

We were around and so, regularly, we exchanged a few words.

In the five conversations I had with various adult members of the party, always the process of leaving was topic:

• They asked what time they were supposed to leave and confirmed that that would happen, since they were all on the case.
• They all promised that they would say their goodbyes in person to us, just before they would leave.
• They were all showing their ‘ being busy to get ready to leave’ to us, by moving at high speed over the gravel.
• Making comments that they, the adults, were already ready, but that it was the three teenagers who needed to wake up and get ready.

Nice words, nice smiles. All very pleasant.

10 o’clock came and went.

I knew that the new guests were not likely to arrive at 4 o’clock sharp, so I looked at it with slight amusement, knowing that we’d have time to do the cleaning, even if these guests needed some more time. There was no need to try to persuade them to speed things up.
The main challenge I had to cope with was that there wasn’t much I could do meanwhile. ‘Waiting’ is not among my preferred activities in life, so I found a magazine I could read in, that I could drop easily when they would be ready to say goodbye and go.

11 o’clock came and went.

At some point we heard that they were done in the bedrooms and we could start work in there.
It was when I was carrying the laundry to the place where the washing machines are, that I found all but one sitting in their cars, ready to go.

When I came back to the car, now empty handed (easier to say goodbyes properly)  the last person said ‘ bye to me and from the car came waves and some said: ‘ say goodbye to Richard from us, will you?’

11.30 and off they went.

Nice words, nice smiles, my smile slightly bemused and puzzled, I think.

Richard was disappointed that they had left without giving him a chance to say goodbye.
I was bemused about all the ‘ acting’; that had been going on to ....... to what exactly? To convince us of something happening, that wasn’t really happening at all.
I phrased it  as : ‘say something, to please us (?)  but  do something completely different’

In the light of the theme of this blog post, I’d say that this was a beautiful example of how sequential collective consciousness is put in action.

Every time one of the guests was speaking to us, a small collective was formed. Given their words, they were well aware of our values, needs and desires, concerning their actions. Probably also willing to act accordingly.

However, every time they stepped back into the house, our little collective was forgotten about, or at least faded into the background reality of their current  group collective, a completely different field of needs, desires and expectations of everybody. An energy field, a dynamic with more influence on the behaviour of the individuals,  apparently .....observing the doing, that was a result of it.

Is this just an example of sequential collective consciousness? Farfetched even, an exception of ‘ those people’ , not worth standing still and looking at, really? Not having anything to do with your reality?

Well, let’s extrapolate on the principle, see if it rings a bell in your reality.

Do you say to your boss that you are entirely happy doing something after hours?
Do you complain with your co-workers about the work load and how unreasonable the boss is?
Do you then say to your partner that you are not happy with it but had to....when she complains that you were not in time for this special dinner, as promised?

Yes, in every situation mentioned above you may be saying the things the people in that audience desire to hear from  you and you may even mean it, in that instant and have the intention to act accordingly.(SYMYDY)

But then you step into the reality of another collective, sensing the different vibes of needs and desires, you sequentially go with that flow. Saying the things the people in that new audience desire to hear from  you and you may even mean that, in that instant and have the intention to act accordingly too.(SYMYDY again)

All is still well if those actions simply happen to coincide.... or... if the collectives never meet and the observables different truths of what you say and what you do don’t come to the light.

But your boss is likely not to be amused to find out that you say you are happy in his face, and you expressing the exact opposite to your co-workers.
Your partner is probably not amused hearing your boss cheerfully explain to her in the supermarket that you volunteered eagerly among many candidates of co-workers to work on Wednesday evening. Wasn’t that the exact same evening you promised to spend with her but cancelled last minute because you said you were almost forced to work?

Of course, you can say that the reaction of the boss and your partner to this snippet of information being revealed is completely up to them. They chose to perceive it in a certain way and therefore chose their emotional response to it. Part of the truth, I would say, you can’t be held responsible for how people perceive your behaviour.
But can you be held responsible for you actual observable actions......?
Can people inquire with you how what you say relates to what you do and inform you about the effects your choices have on them?

Yes, that may be a scary thought.
But in my experience, it is not as difficult as it may seem.
There is at least one very good reason for that.

Most people are aware, know from their own experience, that it is not always easy to juggle various roles and responsibilities. We’ve all been there, we are all under the influence of sensing the vibes of the needs and desires of the collective you are physically in right now being very strong, impacting on values in other collectives you are a part of. Doing something that has an unpleasant impact on somebody else we hold dear, is no fun, we all know that.

If and when it happens and you are open about what happened and are clearly willing to see the position of the other and the effects, the consequences your choices of actions have caused and you show you’ve learned from it, it is soon a thing of the past, solved in peace.

Things start to look less peaceful when a part of a collective is not showing willingness to work with (all of ) it, move with its dynamics, taking all relevant  parts at least most of the time into account in words as well as in observable aligned actions.....doing justice to the available talents and resources to flow abundantly and dynamically.
That has consequences for the structural integrity of the collective and the dynamics in it.

Apparently, I have a strong sense of con-sequential collective consciousness.
What consequences do my choices and action shave, not only in the (small) collective I am currently physically and energetically in contact with ( the person or the group involved in the task at hand), but for all the people I am in touch with, involved with, the whole composition I am a part of. Are all available resources in the flow, being used, allowed to freely contribute what they can?

Yes, this is a meta-physical awareness.
But not in some airy fairy explanation of the unseen that is completely inconsequential to the physical reality of our lives... (!)
Yes, indeed, it is with an awareness of the collectives I cannot see right now, I am not currently aware of, in my real-time e-scape. But being a part of those collectives is by me understood to be consequential in the endless sequences of e-scapes I’ll encounter.
I am constantly not only aware of the individual transaction I make in that instant, but also on how this transaction fits in all the transactions I make and value, also with other collectives I am a part of. From that awareness, having very little to do with any airy fairy esoteric philosophical theory, I am coordinating my choices to a coherent, harmonious composition that anybody can inquire about at any moment of any day, to contribute what I can to peace, pleasure and harmoney, for all involved.

Meta-..... ‘ beyond’ , implying ‘coordinated’ and being about itself ( meta-communication is communicating about the communication... keeping an eye on the process of communication, the patterns and structure beyond each individual expression)

You may think there is an easy way to stay out of the troubles that arise when you are not harmonising all your say ‘ yes’ to.

Some people try to make this paradox work:

They promise themselves: “ I never make a promise to anybody again.”

Apart from the obvious observation that you are breaking the only promise you apparently find useful to make, with the one person you can’t escape from no matter in what collective you are present: yourself.....
...unless you decide to live far away from all living beings...... it is something you are not able to do.

Try one day avoiding constructions as:” I am going to.....”, “ I shall........”, “ I’ll be....”

No matter how many promises you allow yourself not to make or keep, making plans is part  of your human nature, as is communicating about it. If it is not in words, than you still do it in energy and people pick up on it. They will see you act, either accordingly, in line with your own vibes, or not, but in either case, they’ll interact with your actions, your choices and your vibes.

You may think:” But in saying ‘ I am going to....” I am not making any promise to anybody. It is an inconsequential statement of a plan, I can change my mind about it anytime and do something else!”

Well, I am not stopping you from that experiment, if you think it is a fun one to conduct.

Let me know if you’ve found proof that inconsequential exist.
I am curious to see what that looks like. 

I haven’t experienced it so far in 43 years.

Tuning into Joy

It put a smile on your face ( hopefully) the cat and dog analogies in the two previous blog posts.

If you wonder:” How can  this food for thought be used practically in every day life?” .... in this blog post I’m going to share my ideas on how you can implements a couple of understandings in a simple way.

Let me first summarise the understandings I am sticking in the mix here. They all got introduced in earlier posts.

Summary of insights:

I gave an illustration of how being a team with your soul guides you to go out into the world of energy and enjoy yourself with it.

In the world of energy, you’ll encounter other living beings and you’ll have interactions with them. Some briefly, only once.... others more frequently and longer.

We-fields develop, you are relating and teaming up, investing energy in mutual goals and purposes, no matter how small ( exchanging 10 tomatoes for €1,50, just once) or how big ( raising a child, setting up and running  a multi millions business).

Every being: (dynamically vibrating energy pattern... DVEP)  has a soul of itself.

Coming full circle on the analogy: you could say that every we-field has its  own guide dog too, to help guide this (collective) being as a whole. (*)

Looking at the e-scape of a collective ( soul level)  a collective thrives when for all parts these three elements are present, regularly, consistently, harmoniously, dynamically:

1. Continuity of a structure to play in, work from
   (a home, a comfort zone, with recognisable characteristics like  shape, rhythm, flow)
2. Inspiration to follow
   ( new interesting influences, of a high(er) quality , more complexion, with (more) depth to it  relief variety and a reasonable amount of challenge, the instructions on the Divine Blueprint)
3. Express itself to its highest joy and be followed
   ( initiating a change, taking the lead in a dynamic system, feel the response of other beings tuning into its highest joy)

Practical option for implementation

Up to speed, now. You are interested in your practical everyday life issues being solved in a simple practical way?
Good News! That is what this blog post is about!

There is a very down to earth ( natural) way to look at this e-scaping and deal pragmatically with it. Almost no effort for you and great results for everybody involved. 80/20 thinking in full swing.

Before you get all excited... I have to warn you:
“O yeah.... by the way...... most people find this extremely difficult!”

It is called ‘ tuning into Joy’.

It is deeply founded in not only acknowledging, but also using (to the advantage of all involved), the understanding that every single being in this world has the soul need to share its highest Joy and be followed.
How can you be a part in that? Indeed, the verb here is ‘ to follow’.

Why ‘ most people’ find this sooooooo difficult, is because they think ‘following’  has to do with adopting opinions or habits  or rules into your own precious belief system and routines and has a permanent, conditional character.  And if the assessment is made that what is presented by somebody else is not 100% comfortably compatible, it should best get100% rejected.

The first step to take here is to consider if I speak of ‘ following’  here, I am talking about energy and  energy patterns in e-scapes.
That has very little to do with the “OMG ...if I follow this person, my belief system gets changed into something unknown that I am not 100% comfortable with”  interpretation of ‘ to follow’ .

I assure you, with ‘ tuning into joy’, you can very comfortably, have it all:
You can leave your belief system 100% intact if you so desire, fulfil somebody else’s soul need to share its highest joy with you following their energetically lead and meanwhile, on the fly(!),  fulfil your own soul need to be inspired too.

Where?  When?  With whom?

You can do this with anybody you encounter, but I recommend doing it especially with the people you spend regularly time with in the real world, in the here and now of your own natural reality.

In cyberspace, as much other things it has to offer, it doesn’t work, because all this ‘ tuning into Joy’ is an interplay between your real body-mind-soul and the vibes around you, your e-scape, the world of energy.
In cyberspace, the vibes around you a not playing this game... your computer is transmitting a steady beat on energy level, usually not on frequency that is in the Joyful range of possibilities.

Why?

This habit, habit of ‘ tuning into Joy’ is crucial to the happy and confident sustainable development of lively harmonious communities.

How?  

It is, in its essence, super simple...
This one line is describing the whole procedure in all detail:

When somebody is enjoying himself/ herself.... you tune in. You give open attention.

You don’t have to say a word,  just watch, listen, feel, observe, register, give atention.....

In giving this attention, your auto-tuning system will, at quite high speed, automatically (!) tune you up to the same joyfull frequencies, to be an harmony with it.

Unless of course, you are actually tuning in onto your narrating voice in your mind and its opinions about what is there and what you should be doing instead of investing time in this... If that gets more attention than the actual events... your auto-tuning system will harmonise your energy patterns with that, because your auto-tuning system harmonises it energy patterns with anything that gets your real  attention. If you catch yourself ‘ blurring’, ask yourself in your mind:” Where is the joy in this?” or “ What is the joy in this?”, simply choosing that your one desire is to tune into joy.

What happens ‘ under the bonnet’?

Under the bonnet, the other beings soul senses that its signal is being received: its joy is shared and it is being followed. In it’s e-cape it experiences that element 3 is present and that is an extra joy, adding more depth and relief to its energy landscape, right here, right now.

It’s vibration goes up a level more and since you are tune into his or her vibration, you are automatically tuning up too, also experiencing the joyful composition in energy.

Yes, there is the possibility that this being ( a puppy, a cat, a child, a spouse, a neighbour, a stranger) would like to share the activity it is involved in with you, show you things, explain you things about this great joy.

This is where ‘ most people’ think they are at a loss if they engage with this. On the short term, they’ll lose the time now spend and there are better things to do ( usually on a computer, or somewhere else, with somebody else) and on the long term, this creature is likely to  turn more frequently to them for  attention, like to grow a habit that involves this specific activity and it has to learn that .... and then a summary out of the belief system follows on what makes this being a good independent citizen.

And there is truth in that and so you may want to think about how you can confidently and harmoniously deal with that, if that would happen.
Because  at this moment in time, if anybody does fulfil the soul need in somebody to be tuned into and be followed, energetically in joy,  chances are this being will return to this person as a camel to an oasis. It is a soul need, remember, so you’ll go where you can find it fulfilled. In an energetical  desert, oasis a few and far between.

I may write another blog post as some point, to share some practical ideas on this.

Back now to looking at the positive effects of tuning into somebody else’s joy.

On the short term, you are experiencing the vibes of Joy effortlessly, surfing on your auto-tuning system, which boosts your energy system with turbo fuel. With that in your system you can get much more done, later in the day, when this interplay has ended. You’ll be far more effective.

In the long term, you are contributing to the happiness and confidence of another being that its vibes of joy are worthwhile tuning into and it will produce more of that as a result. It will also have stored energetically another example in its here and now community how easy and rewarding it is to tune into each other and that there is only joy to be increased when this is done. It’ll return the joy of it, if it isn’t to you, than it is to another. Another in the community, you might encounter one day when you are enjoying yourself and (s)he stops to tune into you for a minute.

Sounds appealing? Worth investing some of your energy in?
Be aware.....
We seem to have collectively decided that tuning into and sharing joy is a hazard to society.
Sharing misery, that is the way to go. We give collectively more attention to what is painful, than to what is joyful ( watch the news, read the newspapers, follow the average conversation in the streets where mainly ‘ problems’ get discussed, illnesses, political and economical difficulties and conflicts.)

We are actively spending more time tuning into what does NOT work very well. Hoping for the best, hoping that that makes a significant positive difference to our world. ( if there was a sign for sour indignant  irony, it would be placed in capitals)

And don’t; get me wrong here. I am not advocating to turn a blind eye to things that don’t work very well!
I am advocating to stop turning a blind eye to joy (and creating more misery in the slipstream of that).

More misery?

Apart from knowing that you are resonating in harmony with anything you lay your attention on, thanks to your auto tuning system, so you are actively down-lifting yourself in that instant, there are some longer term consequences to consider too.

For instance: how and where is an inspirational leader of a community ( a family, an enterprise, a country) ever going to find the confidence that what (s)he enjoys as worthwhile is precious to others too if nobody ever can be bothered to tune into her singing a song, telling a story, making a drawing, brushing a cat, building a Lego-construction, comb a beach, built a tree-house......

Does (s)he  learn that from ;” Not now, honey, I’m busy!”
You may think this being  doesn’t know what you are preferring to give attention to and can wait for the moment when you’ve got ‘ time’.

But this being is looking at you for guidance and input, you are one of its inspirational examples on how living in this community is done, right now. You are an energy emitting being in its e-scape.
And you may be not be aware of the interplay in the world of energy ( focussed on something else), not allowing your auto-tuning system to tune into (his/her) joy......but his/her auto tuning system detects without fails the vibrations you seem to enjoy, simply by giving you attention, because you are resonating with what you enjoy more than the joy right here, right now......lower vibes, the vibes of ...... lack of time, pain and misery.

Remember... being followed in your most joyful vibes is a soul need, not just a hobby.

If you wonder why your child/animal/partner is suddenly chewing the carpet, having tantrums, is frequently diseased, crying over nothing, rolling over the floor as if the end of the world is near....... and you know on some level the answer is: to get your attention.....

That may be s SIGNAL. You have probably missed about 100 opportunities to tune into joy in your own community, voluntarily under harmonious conditions, not costing you much time and lifting you up the process.
Now, this being in your community needs to know that it is still capable of taking the lead where somebody will have to follow in the vibes, it will create a symphony of the vibes you seem to prefer in your world: misery and pain.
And you’ll follow, because this seems important to you!

And so it is... you have fulfilled a soul need for somebody in your community. Finally, you have tuned into the vibes of this being taking the energetical lead in this e-scape.

But it could, 100 times before this ' crisis' , have been so much more joyous and uplifting with a butterfly effect on the whole community, spreading the good vibes.

Trust me, if the camel knows that there is a bucket a day to drink, it does not take more than it actually needs. It is only when the hump is emptied under a certain level, that it desperately needs an oasis to fill up, no matter how polluted the water is, in order to survive and.... it takes a lot of time to fill up again.

So, even if you only tune into somebody’s  joy 20 times out of the 100 opportunities, it gets satisfied with one small amounts of time at the time.
All it needs is to have updates on the experience that others tune into his joy, to build confidence upon that he or she is able to take the lead in providing what is needed.

What do you need more of, joy or misery. What does your community need more of, joy or misery?

Small effort, great, multiplied joy, for everybody involved.

In some other blog post I’ll zoom in too ‘recognising joy’.
We have collectively removed ourselves so far from it, we hardly recognise its myriad of forms and shapes it can have.

(*)
As interesting as I find flying and exploring the angle of tuning into the guide dog, the soul of a collective, I chose that this would not be the main topic of this blog post.

But as an afterthought, I felt the desire to share some more thought on this.

Where most people already have trouble sensing ( let alone following) the vibes from their own guide dog/soul..... the concept of a collective guide dog/ soul that is helping all involved in the community with guidance, to develop into the direction of its Divine Blueprint, if they would care to follow its lead.....may be a concept that is ‘ far fetched’
Although I realise:..... most religions and spiritual teachings seem to agree that such ethereal guiding being(s) exist ....
I also realise, most religious people wouldn’t be happily impressed with picturing the force they worship as a guide dog. It’s a good thing it is all just an analogy ( smiley face).

E-scaping your life

No, the title above is not a typo.

Yes, it is holding good advice if you are fed up with the quality of your life as it stands at the moment.
No, it has nothing to do with escaping: running away and hiding.
It has everything to do with e-scaping, shaping your life on an energetical level.

Where landscaping is all about shaping the terrain around you, giving it interest, making it nice to enjoy, for yourself and others.......e-scaping is about shaping your life with an energy awareness, giving it interest, making it nice to enjoy, for yourself and others.

One of the things landscape artists use, is variety, relief and depth.
Looking at one endless stretch of lawn, as far as the eye can see, is boring....let alone the same stretch but now in concrete.

A really nice park or garden has a variety of plants, from low annuals to tall trees in various shapes of leaves. It has view-point, hidden corners to discover, places to walk, places to sit and ponder. A water feature maybe, adding movement and reflections. Maybe walls, or fences and other built up constructions to give it a structure.

E-scaping uses the same tools: variety, relief and depth.

What does the energetic landscape of your life look like?

Flat?
Could it be that you are using a lot of the time electronical devices with screens?

They have that effect.

Somehow not quite right?
Are you surrounded by people playing in ‘twainggggg’ ( complaining, being negative, or playing the same simple song over and over again, with almost no variety or depth to it)

I you’re ready for more subtle and varied compositions....it may be time to get inspired somewhere else.

E-scaping might be the thing to look into.

Like a garden, if the underlying basic structure is well considered, there is always something of interest, growing, developing and capturing your attention but it is never getting out of hand.

Energy awareness, applied wisely, makes wonderful e-scapes, for yourself to be in, for others to enjoy too.

“Where and how do I invest my energy in such a way that a harmonious composition is made (for all involved), that can grow and develop and mature in a sustainable way over time?”, is a leading question in e-scaping.

All involved is (obviously) all the parts of yourself ( body-mind and soul), but also other the body-mind and souls of the people you are living with. Sounds simple.....( with support and guidance from the Knowing it actually is)..... 

But it is not common practise at the moment and therefor you may not have many living examples to simply follow in your direct environment. Pioneering may hold some challenges.

Enfin......

Final words in this blog post:

If ever you find yourself saying to yourself:” I wish I could escape my own life and everything in it....”

Look closely, there may be a hyphen in escape: e-scape.
And e-scaping might be what you came here to do in the first place: play with your energy.

Enjoy your e-scape!

Auto tuning and devices

In introducing the auto tuning system, I mentioned that it always works.

The comparison with breathing air is not coincidental: these are both automatic processes... stopping them is highly uncomfortable and also means the end of life as you know it.

Like breathing, it works when you are awake, it also works when you are asleep.

You probably knew about breathing, it is a quite noticeable function.
The auto-tuning system may be a new one on you, since it is operating somewhat  further under the levels of your active consciousness and so you notice much less of it.

Surprised that something I call of vital importance in you can escape your attention for decades?
There are many vital processes in your system operating far below your active consciousness. Like  renewing blood cells for instance. That is also not something you are consciously involved with, that goes on 24/7, completely in tune with your personal rhythm, activities, environmental influences and various other variables.

Now that you are introduced to this auto tuning function, aware of its existence,  you may want to increase your consciousness about it and learn to play with it, because you can use it to your advantage in actively shaping your life. That is what it was meant for in the first place, to assist you in making your life easier and more harmonious in a social context.

That may sound really appealing: a more harmonious and easier life. Bring it on!
What were the option you could chose from?
O yeah, one of them was to expose yourself to inspiration more often?
Fantastic! That is super easily done.
Let’s play some movies and read inspirational websites and e-books and create and post more inspirational thoughts on Facebook. Good fun and if that’s the way forward to make life easier and harmonious: cool!

Well.......
If being able to do more of that is your main motivation to play with this new toy, then there is something you need to know . You are probably not going to like it, as a modern day person.
So, I thought I ought to mention it right away, now that the concept is freshly introduced and you might be curious to learn about it.
I am always a huge fan of founding your choices on all relevant information, as much as possible.
And this sure seems relevant to me.

You auto-tuning system isn’t interested in what something looks like, or the beauty of the words conveyed. Your auto-tuning  system doesn’t tune into that at all.
What it does tune into, is the energy patterns of the environment it is in, right here, right now, compare it with your own tuning and see how and where it can be harmonised.

Electronic devices

Something fascinating happens when you are using an electronic device, like a television  or a computer or a smart phone.

You (or more to the point, the part of you that is your conscious mind) think that you are relating to a variety of inspirational things, lifting your vibrations to ever higher and more subtle levels. And you think that ‘ enjoying’ yourself, is a good indication of that, finding inspirational input and/or creating inspirational output.
Actually, what is happening simultaneously, as another significant part of the truth,  is that your auto-tuning system is detecting in which energetical environment you are right now.

That energy landscape around you is, to describe it in one word: flat.

There is almost no variety. Your devices are transmitting a steady beat of the very same X Mhz per minute, regardless of the content you are playing with. Every device has it’s own beat, but it is not unusual for it to be 60 MHZ/minute....which in the range of possibilities is not one of the most uplifting frequencies.

So, you think you are exposing yourself to an interestingly varied subtle range of examples to follow and your mind indeed produces for a while really nice vibrations too.
But.... your auto-tuning system is meanwhile adjusting your system to a steady 60 Mhz/minute.
It has too, since the computer ( or television or smart phone) is such a powerful, steady energetic influence, completely not responding to you energetically by altering its vibrations as a response to the vibes you are creating in your mind.
Your system can only conclude that it has to adjust itself, by lowering its own vibrations now in order to  harmonize with this powerful influence in your environment, in order for you to  survive.

It doesn’t know ‘ machine’ from ‘natural source’ and treats them all the same.

It does know a couple of other things:

• You are giving this energy emitting entity very much your full attention
• You are investing much of your time in relating to it.
• You are finding it fascinating and joyful to be with this.

therefore.... it must be important for you to relate to it!

It also notices that the object of your affection is clearly not able to adjust itself to your joyful, subtle, inspiring clear notes.

Therefore.....  it must be a lesser experienced being. 

So, in order for good energetic harmony to be restored, you, the more experienced, more versatile being, can play along with its tune and beat. And so you tune automatically down to a drone like frequency.

Which is not a problem, in itself. You are able to do that and able to do something else as well.

However, if you expose yourself to screens a lot, hours at the time, you might lose your flexibility and versatility at a steady speed of 60 Mhz/minute.

It is not exposing yourself more to lesser capable energy entities that are really not into change and playing with energy frequencies and vibrations that will improve and develop your own skills and abilities, stretching your talents to play with vibes far, creating beautiful compositions far beyond your imagination......

Of course... yes, in relating to a computer, you are harmoniously relating to your environment, thanks to your auto-tuning system and it is easy and you can feel comfortable knowing you can easily do this: no challenge to your what so ever.
But.... it is one of the dullest, flattest never changing energy landscapes you can find!

Even the things you touch when operating these devices are for the most part synthetic and not triggering you to tune into more natural, more varied energy patterns .

You are sitting still, for the most part, not producing any variation in your own vibes with movement either.

You, in your mind, may be having a whale of a time, just feeling a bit bog eyed after a while and stiff. You might be so absorbed by the fascinating cyber world, so tuned into that frequency, that you don’t feel (anymore) how your energy levels and zest for living as a whole being in the here and now, have dropped, since your body and soul are not so impressed with this activity for so many hours a day.

You auto tuning system is not being triggered to go from ‘twainggggg’ into more clarity and more subtlety and more variety, (if that was what you were after to achieve). But it goes for hours into almost flat lining, which has even less to offer in aliveness then playing in twainggggg’.

It is like a professional piano player. If he only plays ‘ jingle bells’ for hours in a day, weeks in a row, it doesn’t improve his ‘ fur Elise’, let alone anything more complex.

If you’d like  to be serious about developing yourself into the best version you can imagine, close to your Divine Blueprint... then I suggest to be very cautious with your screen time.

Personally, I have as a guideline: no longer than 4 hours a day and in at least two stints with a proper break in between, away from the whole cyber scene. Giving my auto-tuning system something else to tune into, with more variety, something in the here and now, preferably.

And find lively, open for change energy emitting entities to play with. They may respond to you, on an energy level and you in turn to them....

Yourself ( away from the computer and television) and element of nature, are usually never far away.

Tuning into the Divine Blueprint II

Did this last blog post sound all very Utopia?
Are you missing the link with practicalities in everyday life?

Knowing something is wonderful, sensing something too.
We all have that capacity and so many people spend a lot of time talking about how things could be better.
However one doesn’t achieve getting closer to anything without some form of actual action leading in the right direction.

But which actions can be taken if you are ‘ just a small part of the whole’? That is not always evident to decide. The smaller your part, the easier it is to feel powerless. If the odds are against you ( 1 in 100, 1 in 500) can you still make a significant difference?

Follow me in, into this Care Home example.

What if one of the 50 staff members was freed up for 1 on 1 quality time in, let’s say, giving a nice foot massage to a resident, with a good chat... all calm, with care and full attention.

Half an hour, an hour of ‘ time out’ from the  hectic, factory like care-protocols where time = money and there is not enough of both to go around and the idea of ‘ care’ is often somewhat compromised.

This staff member and the resident she is with on this Friday morning, are both fully attuned to the daily Care Home rhythm and flow. Both have spend enough time living/working in it.  So, they are fully ‘a part of it’, actively contributing to it in their respective roles, being an active part of thewe-field this Care Home is.
Once people are fully a part of a DVEP, they also can become receptive to the subtle energies of the Divine Blueprint of it. You can start relating to ‘ where you are here and now, as an active part of the whole’ to ‘ what is intended to be’, especially in calm moments where the business of everyday life, isn’t taking over.....

In this half hour, they may ( or may not) talk about life in the Care Home. 

Under the energetical bonnet, you both have got a chance here to tune in, with your auto tuning system, to a calmer version of care in the Care Home, relating as two human beings to it, not living the hectic for some time, but actually living a higher idea of what care and caring in a Care Home can also be about.  

Then, the magic happens.
You’ll gain experience and confidence.... this grander version of care in a Care Home IS possible here.
Both the staff member and the resident carry that vibe now., both are not only tuned into that, but are sending those vibes out too.
In return, others ( even if it is just for a short period of time before ‘ normal routines’  kicks back in) will pick up on that with their auto-tuning abilities and will on an unconscious level try to play along with those nice clear free flowing high level care vibes too!
So that ‘ good vibe’ spreads, is felt, tuned into by more people than just the one staff member and the one resident.
That is one ‘ result’. But it doesn’t stop at the level of ‘ sensing’ and ‘feeling’..

When a person is on some level aware of where you are all (intended to be) going, it is much easier to see harmonious ways to contribute in going there, in the small everyday steps you can take, within what is happening in the whole, in line with your own Divine Blueprint.

Examples?

The resident who got her feet massaged may decide, still in touch with the Blueprint Vibes, to have a chat with a lonely co-resident that day. ( an other difference for the better is made)
The staff member who did the massage may,  still in touch with the Blueprint Vibes , offer a cuppa and a friendly understanding gesture to a colleague who had a rough shift and needs to be seen, be known.  ( an other difference for the better is made)
Or.... the lonely resident picking up on the Blueprint Wavelength, sends a wave of full appreciation and understanding in nodding to another staff member who had a rough shift!  ( an other difference for the better is made)

Doesn’t all this happen without people tuning into the Divine Blueprint?
I sure hope and trust that it does happen already.
However, when more people do it more consciously, are taking these time-outs from everyday life activities deliberately, maybe even amplifying the signal of the Divine Blueprint by using vibrational  essences, those good vibes get more and more enhanced and acted upon. Changing in the desired direction gets easier, for all involved.

The stronger the signal, the more often it gets repeated, from various sides, the more people sense (with their auto tuning system) in which direction one can get as close to the overall wellbeing as possible. The, more people sense how they themselves can actively partake in it, fully within their possibilities, even on a ‘small scale’. But in really taking those actions, more energetically power (attention) gets invested in setting the Energy in motion in the same direction, moving there ( and experiencing it) as a whole!

Is this more than ' just theory' ?

A big ‘ Thank you’ to the Care Home that is actively volunteering to find out in their daily practise.
They are experimenting with enhancing the wellbeing of all involved, desiring to move into the direction of the grandest idea of this Care Home, using vibrational essences in the process,  as we speak, summer 2015.

To be continued.......

Tuning into the Divine Blueprint

Every living being comes with a couple of build in metaphysical skills and tools. To name a few:

• The drive to live, to develop itself
• The ability to know where it is, right here and right now
• It’s Divine Blueprint, the inherent knowledge of its overall purpose and design

It is obvious to see this in animals, plants and human beings, observing the material aspects.

• As from the first division in cells, it shows this drive to live and develop: it grows bigger.
• It senses where it is in its development and knows what is needs right here, right now. So cells stop dividing when there are enough of the same and only resume that task when more cells of the same type are needed again.
• It follows a natural rhythm of day/night, seasons to determine if it needs to develop a flower, drop its leaves, take food/air in or give waste materials off.

It isn’t making it up as it goes along, deciding:” shall I be a tomato plant today or a lobster or mix the two and be a lobmato for a while?”

No, the being is following its Divine Blueprint. If it is a tomato plant, it will be a tomato plant with specified characteristics of flavour, size, shape, colour. Another being is a lobster. Only if a lobster and a tomato plant cross bread and a NEW being is created, that being follows the blueprint of the Lobmato.
Does one know upfront what a Lobmato will be like? No, it has to develop itself through all the stages of its existence, to realise itself fully, to show and express all its potential.
Although it is fair to say, it will have some characteristics of a tomato plant and some of a lobster.... chances of something becoming red in its appearance at some point are quite high.

Back to human beings, not so much looking at the biology (development of bodies) of them, but at the metaphysical development of human beings and their creative relation with other living beings.

This begins with a concept that on an energetic level (metaphysical), we are all Dynamically  Vibrating Energy Patterns, having a creative relation with other Dynamically  Vibrating Energy Patterns (DVEP’s). Beings, yes.... but I’d like to step away from the biological understanding that a being always has a body, you can see with your eyes.

Whenever two or more DVEP’s meet, they make contact to determine how they relate to one another. They are all sending and receiving Energy in motion (what people refer to as Emotion) with a tension, like electricity has a tension (between people usually spelled as: with attention). In short, they are exchanging all sorts of vibes.
When there is a mutual creative intention, something special happens: creation.

Like musicians meeting:
When they pick up on each others vibes and like them, become curious, they want to play music together: explore and experience what can become of combining their talents and vibes.
In doing so, a new DVEP comes into being.
It is a new living, developing entity, having characteristic of all its creators, but, like the Lobmato very much with its own Divine Blueprint of its purpose and energetical design.
Sometimes this is just a short living DVEP: one song, one jam session, one chat and that’s it. It isn’t developing into a long term living entity.

Regularly, long living DVEP’s are created, when people decide to keep investing in combining the efforts and vibes. It can be a long term living-together-relationship between two people, a family-of-four, a work team or even an entire organisation of 100 people or a village community of 120.

It is easy to see that these are non-exclusive, co-existing DVEP’s who interrelate.
One person can be a part of the ‘couple’ living together, being the adults in the family of four, going out to work in the organisation of 100 and living in the village community.
Actions taken in one of the playing fields, are likely to have consequences in the others too.

Add another child to the family may have a small influence at work ( have maternity leave, talk about it, showing pictures...), a medium impact for the community (adding a new person) and a high impact on family-life.

If a new DVEP is a new child (a creation of two or more conscious human beings), the chances of it having a conscious mind of itself and sharing the same characteristics  of rhythm  and other basic needs with their creators, are fairly high (smiley face).

The very same is true for all DVEP’s , also when more than two conscious human beings are the founders of it, like an organisation or a village community.

Let’s take a Care Home, for instance, as an example.

On first glance, it may seem that it is ‘ just a building’, a ‘thing’ where just over a hundred individuals happen to work and live. Or, ‘ just an organisation’ , a ‘body’ performing various functions.
All part of the truth, but it is also an energetic creation, a DVEP.
It has come into being at some point in time, because people consciously decided to share their talents, resources and needs in time and place, for a long time.
Which needs? The need for care met the need for caring, providing all parties involved with a way to fulfil needs for food, shelter, meaningful contacts ( .....among many many other human needs).

This being, this DVEP is an entity on its own, a living we-field of energy vibrations.
Like with a human being, a plant or an animal, it is possible to tune into its energetic characteristics,  its Divine Blueprint, the vibrational essence of its original  purpose, when you are playing a part in this we-field.

It can be directly tapped into, in the actual we-field itself. 

But with everyday reality coming up with its everyday demands, it may be difficult to tune into the Divine Blueprint. Especially if ( for some reason) the everyday practise has moved relatively far away from its original idea.
It is in the nature of your auto-tuning system that it will pick up on and adapt to the vibrations that are actually there and ‘ play along’ with that . 

But if you’d like to get a feel for the original Blueprint, it may be good to know that a copy of it is also stored in another we-field, the collective consciousness, the Knowing.

It is easier to tap into and relate to when you connect with it in a calm and relatively quiet moments of the day, relating to it all by yourself, without the distraction of other we-field demands, to which your auto-tuning system will turn right away.
Repeating it, over and over again, until you get a good feel for it, know it, really well.

Why would one want to do that? Why spend time on tuning into the Divine Blueprint of any DVEP you are involved in..... the being YOU, or any other DVEP you are playing a part in?
Why not just ‘ go with the flow’ of what is there in the everyday reality?

Well, if you are completely oblivious to its wellbeing and development, than there is no real point in spending time doing this.
However, if you care for its development and you desire to contribute to its development  into the direction of the ‘ best version of itself’, then it surely helps to know what that Divine Blueprint it, the original grandest idea of this being and act in line with those ideas.

Chances are that this is not a burden to you anyway, because you are playing a part in this. Contributing to its development into the best version it can possibly be, is beneficial to your personal wellbeing too!

• Working in a nice atmosphere, with friendly colleagues and happy customers, may hold appeal to you....?
• Living in a safe, supportive community may appeal to you....?

No enterprise was ever founded on the idea to pester workers and annoy customers.
No community was ever founded on the idea that ideally it would be a life threatening experience  to stick your nose out there and say ‘ hello’ to the first person you see.

Yet, everyday reality in many work environments contains a lot of pestering and annoying and neighbourhoods and communities are not all that friendly.... so there are quite a number of those DVEP’s that have moved away (relatively far) from the original setup.

But as long as people are investing time and energy in these DVEP’s, the’ll develop into some direction.
Wouldn’t it be nice if the movement was into the direction of the best ideas about it?

The more people tap into that, have a feeling for it, relate to it, personally and actively, the more people know which actions they can personally take (no matter how small!) to move into that direction. With all these conscious acts of creation combined, the DVEP can’t move anywhere else, but in the direction of the grandest ideas about it and you, yourself, are meanwhile developing in the direction of the grandest designs of yourself.

There is a built-in harmony and perfect order in all these energy fields playing and interacting together... !
But tapping into that and acting accordingly is necessary for it not to become a random composition with very random, not so harmonious outcomes as a result.

Riddle about ‘ celebrating life’

Q:

What is it called when an intensely pleasurable experience (often viewed as a celebration of life) is shared, in harmony, by three, freely and happily?

A:
A threesome

Q:
Logically.....What is it then called when an intensely pleasurable experience (often viewed as a celebration of life) is shared, in harmony, by many more people in the world, freely and happily?

A:
A we-some

Me ( yesterday evening, smiling, playing with these words)
"What a fascinating snippet of inspiration!"
( Seeing the link with what I am doing here):
The Knowing is the collective consciousness of all people , the ‘ place’ in the metaphysical world where we all share our experiences freely and happily, without boundaries, without gaps in our knowledge.

Close the gap in ‘ a we-some’  and you’ll see what the Knowing is:
AWESOME 

Little note:

Yes, the word threesome is most frequently used when talked about the celebration of life called sex, although according to my dictionary online, trio, trinity and triad are all words for  3 entities -interacting.

I just realised how in my experience I would say that even when two physical people are involved in the celebration of live called sex, I feel most alive and fulfilled when there are three ( energy fields, metaphysical entities) of us involved, simultaneously:

If the we-(energy) field is not shared, full filled (litteraly filled with the breath of life, with attention) minded/ mined at the same time, there are just not enough balloons in the air for me to call it a really awesome party.

Imagine the fun in any celebrations of life when the energy fields look more like this:

A party like this, definitly needs more attention to details!!

Fluidity between fields.

In my former blog post, I mentioned for the first time a we-field and a me-field.

I realised, fairly soon after writing it, that it I wanted to clarify something very specific with mentioning those fields.
To my understanding, those are fluid concepts, with no intrinsically built-in sharp boundaries.
They are energy fields, fields containing spans of attention, closer to being 'gas' than ' grass'.

Writing about it in the way I did in my previous post, (being ‘ in’ or  ‘out’) had the purpose to help raise awareness on the influence your actual position in relation to another has, to the likely effects of your actions.

But if you enjoy the tree of your belief system being shaken a little bit, then may I stir up some paradoxal particles of information into a possible confusing mix.

If you don’t like playing and juggling with paradoxes, or having your belief system challenged..... maybe best to skip this article.

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Those still reading:

I already indicated at the end of the article that you can be ‘ in’ and ‘ out’ at the same time! Because every person is  always a part of the collective consciousness ( a we-field) even if you are completely focussed on your me-field.

But it is also possible to have two people in one me-field, without it becoming a we-field ( as in: both are doing the mining).

How?
The me-fields is the place where a person minds their own experiences and organises them in a meaningful order. If one person invites another person into that (usually called intimate) space, it is explicitly not the idea that the other is there to actively mine and re-organise or chance anything at all. That is there you sole task (soul task), the organising, choosing, giving meaning is done alone.
But when you are doing that mining in soil ( the mental garden with soil coming from the compost heap  of your own individual human experiences) you can find emotionally ‘ charged things’ coming to the surface. Mines, buried in ( inner) conflicts from the past, that haven’t been discharged in a safe way.
Sometimes , you are just happy if somebody you trust stays close when you stick such a mine carefully in a ‘sand heap’ in a corner of your me-field.  A person who doesn’t panic in a reflex of defence, throwing some more mines when yours blows, if it blows at all.
Or it is nice to talk about your mining activities in your garden and tell about the arrangements you made, how they are panning out, growing and what plan(t)s you have for the future development of your me-field.
The other is guest, visiting, listening, being... without actually ‘doing’. Giving attention, allowing you some time to focus entirely on what is going on in your garden, without actually being alone. Knowing that you  are safe in doing so.

This goes always on invitation and it is an honour to be invited, not to be thought of light heartedly.

Some people are of the opinion that the invitation needs to come from the conscious mind.
I am personally sure that many invitations are sent and answered on soul-level: unconsciously.
RSVP-ing on such a soul invitation to give support and attention to a person with a frightened and feeling (booby-) trapped suspicious conscious mind tucked away in a corner of that me-field, having no-clue how to deal with one or more charged mines, is not for the fainthearted.
It takes bomb proof courage and enormous sensitivity on energy awareness, quite some training and great devotion to that task, to see the joy in being part of such a bomb squad.

If you are not sure if you are at all consciously invited  as a close friend, acquaintance, relative ( or even as a perfect stranger!) , be sure: you aren’t.
If you are part of the bomb deactivating squad and are on another level invited to step in, trust me, you’ll know that that is the case, without a shadow of a doubt.

If you are not sure at all of what obvious action you can confidently take in such situation, these two things are safe options, where you are energetically not-turning-your-back to a person in need.
Do one (or two) of two things:

-           Gently feel into the willingness of the person for who’s wellbeing you care deeply, who is sending out increasingly stronger help-me-signals,  to see if they invite you. Put calmly the offer on the table. Only RSVP a conscious active personal invitation and behave then like a guest, with care.

-          Call the bomb deactivating squad: Ask the Universe to send the required help, simply in thoughts, with good intentions for all involved. Preferably: don’t share any information about this persons situation with obvious third parties, without this person knowing that you are doing that.

Back to being ‘ in’ and ‘ out’ at the same time, now in another possible way:

People talking to each other, might be an indicator for the existence of a we-field, but it doesn’t not at all indicate that any of them is actually in it as they speak.  

Mouths can talk while the attention is somewhere completely different.  In their respective me-fields, or pre-occupied with issues in other we-fields.....

Joy is usually felt when all involved are paying ‘full attention’ on what is relevant to the we-field they are mining at the time and everybody feels involved in the conversation. Keep in mind, that referencing the me-field is part of normal conversation: you are ‘in’ and ‘ out’ and ‘ in’ and ‘ out’ in sequence, to think, to listen, to process the information that is relevant to what is going on in the field.

A deep sense of intimate co-creative connection is felt, when all involved are not only paying full attention to mining the we-field, but are simultaneously being fully open to the respective me-fields... full openness, nothing to hide behind a fence. In and out, at the same time. Me and we, simultaneously, without losing any sense of self.

It is all quite fluid.

Relative position

This whole blog speaks about how people process information, in the social context life provides. It  aims to give suggestions on how to be more effective, more resourceful and meanwhile enjoying the process more.

One of life’s fascinating challenges is in the matter of ‘how to express a desire for change in a group’?
It  can already be turbulent to play with ideas for change, all by yourself. Adding more people in the mix comes with a whole booby trapped force field in its own right: group dynamics.

This force field has become so booby trapped, because as a species, we’ve made a collective polarising decision: you are either ‘ in’ or ‘out’. You are either part of ‘us’ or part of  ‘them’.
If you are part of ‘us’ you behave like us in the way we all agreed on, either explicitly or implicitly.

Sticking your head out to say:” He guys, actually, there is something in the way things are going that doesn’t please me.”, is therefore best handled with care and consideration.  

On some level of our consciousness, we all know that every single minor or major conflict in this world between people, began with somebody giving expression to this very same thought :” He guys, actually, there is something in the way things are going that doesn’t please me.”
Do you want to be that person, starting the next World War?

On a theoretical spiritual level, it is often said:” We are all one.” and peace would follow from that understanding.
On a practical day to day level, when the going gets tough on our little corner of this planet, most people I deal with, including myself, don’t see that, we don’t feel that, we don’t experience that and so we don’t understand that at all.

Can’t peace follow from our current levels of understanding? That’s ‘a bugger’!

Will it always be that our palette of choice seems to be, in order to maintain some sort of peace, somewhere in the system:

-          we either swallow our discomforts and suggestions for change favouring  the peace of mind that comes with belonging to a group, or

-          we express our suggestions for change favouring the peace of mind within yourself, respecting our values and ways.

This tension ‘ under the bonnet’ is feeding the grid of the booby trap in the group dynamics.

As long as you stick to one of the two strategies, all is relatively calm. But one tiny morsel of information jumping over the fence to the other strategy and ‘ bang!’, you’ve tripped a mine.
That morsel doesn’t have to be a word.....( it usually isn’t),  it can be uttered in body language, tone of voice,  in actions taken.

I am sure there is a safe way to deal with this mine-field and that is to re-understand it:
This field is a mine-field..... a field to mine ( delve actively into bring to the light and share not only your finds, but also the work and the profits with the others in the same mind-field).
If you can step away from the idea that it is only a field with mines, a first step is made to explore a grander reality, a more peaceful reality.

We don’t have to deny, that  after so many centuries of human  inter relational warfare, there are booby traps and mines under the surface of our consciousness and our relations.

But if we decide more and more often not to add any more and to de-activate gently and together any existing mines we happen to find, being on the lookout for the gems in life to share, we’ve actually ended the war.

This sounds very noble and I suppose Alfred Nobel himself would be jumping up and down of excitement with this analogy.
For those who don’t know, he was the founder of the Nobel Peace Prize, earned a fortune with an invention that was intended to make mining easier, giving people access to all sorts of materials to build a good life with. But his invention became more known for its use as a material to destroy good lives with easily and quickly, in warfare: dynamite.

Still, on a practical level, it leaves some puzzles to solve.

How can expressing a desire for change be done in another, peaceful, harmonious way? Practically. Usable in the real challenges of everyday life, where the dynamite is still all around, ready to detonate on impact?

The strategy:
Be aware of your relative position in giving suggestions for change to a person or a group.

Check first if you are ‘ in’ or ‘ out’, by answering one simple question:
“Is this a person ( or a group of people)  with whom I share that we often and consistently refer to ourselves  as ‘ we’ ?”
If the answer is ‘yes’, fine, that means ‘ you’ are ‘in’.
That means you are in a position to moving on to the next step of  mining in order to bringing things to the light, under their attention.

If the answer is truthfully ‘ no’, that means you are ‘ out’.
You are seeing them as ‘ them’ they are seeing you as part of ‘ the others’. You are in another field. You are not in a position to start bringing things to the light, under their attention about their mining field activities!!!!!!!
No matter how intrinsically valuable the gems are you see right under their noses in their field. No matter how intrinsically sound you advise it, not matter how peaceful your intentions are. You are not ‘in’, you are not actively personally involved. It is literally not ‘ your place’ to make or suggest changes.

(In another blog I may feel inclined some day in the future to expand on this thought in how ‘campaigners’ propose changes are made by ‘ big companies’, or ‘ governments’. But using your imagination, you might already have some clues)

Next, it is important to ‘ in-vest’ in your in-ness, in this moment.
Realise, answering the former question only indicates that in the recent past up till now there has been enough evidence that there is a common mining field you all refer regularly to as  ‘we’.  

But you haven’t in-vest-igated yet if you are (all) actually in the same place, in this very same moment!
Are you personally fully in it right now?
Is the other person in it right now?

All people have more mining fields, you know.  All people also have a personal one called ‘ me’ too, that they like to attend to regularly.
You may be ready to launch something, but if you are not in the same mining field right now, it is rather perceive to be a missile than a message, because technically, you are ‘out’, right now.

Usually, inviting a person in a friendly way to come to your mutual ‘ we’-field  if you see they are not there, is enough for them to let them know when they can be there too.

Now, some more subtle interesting interplay takes place.
You’ve got to find out if the suggestion you are going to bring under the attention, is viewed by all involved as part of the we-field...something everybody, part of mining this we-field, is actively personally involved in.
Observe what happens if you launch a suggestion for change to somebody you have usually a good  relation with, about something you are clearly not actively and personally in-volved in.
Fireworks in your we-field!

So, it must not only be clear that you are both in the same field, right now, it also has to be clear that you are both personally actively involved in the subject you bring to the light in this field, right now.

Bringing something ( anything but surely if it has emotional charge) you mined elsewhere ( in your me-field maybe) to the we-field expressing a desire that the other should do something with it and you stand safely back ... may, for the obvious reason of the current state of affairs in this world, be regarded with suspicion. Why is it that you stand back from it?

So, since you are bringing the subject up since you feel it has importance to the development of this we-field, you have to show your personal active involvement first, right here, right now.
You do that by holding the matter close to your heart, exposing  and expressing everything you hold dear about the issue-in-relation-to-the-we-field.  You share everything you are aware of, but above all you share how it resonates with you on an emotional level relating it openly to your mutual goals and shared values in the we-field.
You state as clearly as you can your motives on why you think what you brought to the light is to be viewed as an asset and not a mine.
If you suspected something could be a mine, you wouldn’t hold it close to your heart. You wouldn’t  touch it, knock on it and praise it for the good qualities you see in it as part of your joint venture, mining the we-field, would you? Would you happily and calmly already have dealt with some of the obvious actions you are proposed could be made? Can you show, right here, right now, that you’ve actually touched it, played with it and looked into how it can transform to the liking of all involved?

It doesn’t do wonders for the structural integrity and the mutual harmony and joy of a we-field to bring mines to it, or to give the impression that you don’t have much information about it  (and don’t care).

And remember, what you say about a topic is maybe 20% of the information you convey about the topic. What you actively personally do with it, what you show in actions and body language about it makes up about 80% of the communication of your opinion on the matter. Energetically conveying the deeper meanings it holds to your system.

When the need to state in your defence rises: “They could/should have asked me questions!”.. you know then that something blew in the we-field.
You have now moved to your me-field, referring to a part of ‘we’ as ‘they’.  You have moved from ' in' to 'out'.
Peace negotiations, waving white flags and picking up some pieces and do some repair work may be the next issue to delve into, in the we-field.

I see the dichotomy.
Here I am conveying suggestions for change.
Saying  that when one conveys suggestions for  change to somebody, one must  make sure they are both in the same field, at the same place, sharing values and mutual goals and all that.
Where am I now, showing you that this is not a mine? Holding it close to my heart?
You can only see my words ( 20% of my communication). How are you supposed to probe into to other 80% of my communication?

Yes, this is part of the truth and that part is completely true, I am violating my own advise here, big style!

However, I also know that there is a larger truth.
In that one I acknowledge that you and me, we are not in a we-field. I write this in my me-field. You volunteer to look into this information in your me-field. Different in time and place. You might not even know me, personally.  In this field, who I am and what I do, doesn’t matter at all. You are relating to words and your resonances to them. In our respective me-fields, we are alone reflecting and vibrating on experiences.

That, is again entirely true (to me), but again part of a larger truth.
We are in a we-field, were we share all information openly and freely and share mutual goals and values, right now, right here. On the physical plane this we-field is called ‘ us, conscious beings’ .
On the metaphysical plane it is called the collective consciousness, or as I call it more intimately ‘ the Knowing’. In this we-field, that contains our collective resonances on experiences, we are all one.

See which of these three truth speaks to you most.
It is all about ' relative position'.
May it guide you, when you sleep a night on the practical implications of it.