alternative response to distress call

It is possible to use the capacities of the auto-tuningsystem to help somebody move through some difficult emotional turbulence, in an unconventional ( as in... not widely known.....) way.

'Tune into me'

In the conventional ways two strategies are quite often used, often in combination :

1. The ‘ helper’ tunes into (listens, looks, gives attention to) the person who is experiencing the emotional turbulence and lets him or her express those emotions. Being able to express the emotions and thoughts that are involved, is a way to move through them and when all that is brought to the light, it is very well possible to find calmness and confidence from there.
2. The helper gives advice, shares ideas on what the person in turbulence can do.

These strategies both have the potential to work well and have often as a result that both are feeling better (happy, calm and confident) as a result of having dealt with the situation in a successful way: the turbulence is ‘ overcome’.

Putting these options in an analogy, they can be understood as ‘ radio air traffic control assistance’.

The pilot in turbulence is in contact with somebody who is willing to help and probably can offer good advice.
In this scenario it is clear that the assistance is, on an energetic level, somewhere else. The pilot and the assistance are not in the same e-scape.

This energetical distance can even be a great help, because sometimes looking from outside into a situation, is giving more information and clues on ‘ what is going on’ and ‘what can be done to solve it’. 

If and when these strategies work well for all involved,  I’d say that this common practise is obviously fine, ticking all the boxes for a joyful way of dealing with emotional turbulence.

However.....when these approaches to help are experienced by at least one of the people involved as not completely peaceful and harmonious, ‘ choosing another strategy’ may be  a wise thing to do.

There is a way to move closer to joy, in dealing as a team with emotional turbulence, using not much else but the (healing) power of the auto-tuning system.

It tackles two frequently occurring problems that can arise with the two conventional methods. Which issues are often experienced when somebody turn to somebody else for support in a turbulent episode?:

1. When the helper tunes into somebody else’s emotional turbulence it can quite easily kick of difficult issues in the helpers own system as a result... . When that happens, there are two people in turbulence who can’t reach out to each other anymore, but are both circling in their own vortexes of emotional storms, in themselves. The helper can even feel miserable for not being able provide the help that was requested for.
2. The person helped feels at some point overpowered by the helper, not fully understood and, as a result of that, can’t resonate with the presented advice and opinions, no matter how intrinsically good they might be. Or.... simply can't implement the advices on the fly.
   Irritation and frustration rises in an already turbulent emotional field.....

The alternative, using the power of the auto-tuning system is called ‘ tune into me’.

When a person expresses a distress call in any shape or form:” I’m in emotional turbulence, please help me.” in words and/or actions, the ‘ helper’ who picks up on this distress call, can propose this method.

Instead of an exchange mainly in words, where the person in distress needs to process all sorts of information and has to find a way to streamline that into useful actions, while being in turbulence, an exchange mainly in energy is proposed to take place.

Let me put it in the very same analogy of a pilot in distress.

Using this method, it is as if the helper offers to fly out to the place where the other actually is and all the person has to do is follow the assistance aircraft, safely back into joyful, calm territory.

Or, same idea, different analogy:

It is as with cyclists, if you are tired and have to battle to find your way against strong winds, navigating at the same time in unknown territory... it is tough!
If another person just cycles in front of you, you have many benefits following, not the least that the slipstream of his movement is lifting you, towing you, helping you and his body is calming down much of the wind force. The cycling is costing you now much less energy and you can concentrate on the essentials...keep the movement gently going, without any concern on the navigation. All by simply staying ‘ in the wheel’ for a while.

Back to emotional turbulence.

What is needed is that the helper checks with himself if he is ‘centred’, basically feeling all right, emotionally in himself. “Am I fit to take the lead in energy?”

When that is the case, he can propose:” I see you are experiencing emotional turbulence right now. I am at peace and in harmoney, you can tune into me if you want, to move through it.”

direct the mind:

If this offer is accepted, the helper takes his attention completely off the appearance of troubles in the person in distress and only focuses on the joy of taking confidently the lead. If picturing yourself on the front of a row of cyclists, or in an airplane helps to stay with vibe..... do that.
You are helping your mind to stay with it in doing so.

The person in distress puts his attention towards the assisting person and allows himself to follow and relaxes into it. If picturing yourself being behind a broad backside of another cyclist helps, or on the tail of another airplane, feeling how being in the slipstream is taking the tension of many aspects of dealing with your situation.... picture that, you are helping your mind to stay with it in doing so.

direct the body:

Also.....if you are comfortable with it, you can get your bodies involved in this process, by acting this ‘following’ out. In doing so you are, the energy in the body is also ‘ on the same case’ . The more body-mind and soul are co-operating, the more efficient (quick) it works.
The simplest way of acting it out is to position the assistant in front of the person in distress , standing/lying still or moving.

Yes, I know, turning your back to the person you are helping... is not commonly done nor advised in situations like this. But understand that you may be turning the part of your ‘form’ away from this person that is socially associated with giving attention (your face) , but you are offering your full power, the joyful slipstream of your energy! Your attention is fully with the process.. you are direction al your energy to it! If the guide dog doesn’t turn its back to the blind person, to see where they are going, he can’t do his job properly!

This whole method works on the understanding:” What gets attention...grows.”
The helper is tuning actively into the energy of joy, from an already non-( or not-too-) turbulent position. That  is not too difficult to do.
The person in distress is tuning into the energy of the other person. The assistent is steadily increasing in tuning into  joy ( peace, pleasure and harmoney). First actively  ( as a conscious decision) but then quickly followed by automatically, using the auto-tuning system( that simply tunes into all things that get full attention in your e-scape).

When the auto-tuning system of the person in distress kicks in, it makes the job for the helper also easier, because now there is more joy for him to tune into in the actual e-scape. Calmness, confidence and knowing what to do are amplified, on the fly..

The person in distress simply can’t stay in distress, the auto-tuning system following somebody in contact with joy, is pulling her out. Unless, of course, a conscious decision is made to ‘not follow’ and the attention goes to the turbulence/ misery again..... the auto-tuning system follows what gets attention in the e-scape.

Destination joy fully reached:

Once ‘ joy’ is sufficiently reached, you are both in calm more familiar territory,  the rescue-action can end.... both parties are in good spirits and confident on how to proceed.

Maybe the person in distress needs to do some repair work, look into ‘ what happened just there’ and ‘how can I avoid this from happening again, because this was no joy’.
These things can more easily be done applying hindsight, than being in the midst of the real time action, while experiencing nothing but turbulence.

Of course, both parties can agree that this investigation to learn from it can be a mutual venture too. But that is not necessary. 

The requested help to get out of the turbulence, has been given.

Advantages of this method:

You don’t have to be a professional helper, you don’t have to have had experience in what the other is going through, you don’t need opinions about it, you don’t; have to be ‘ good with words’, you don’t have to chose between various options and advices. You don’t even have to have many things in common in your respective belief systems, you don’t have to know each other well. You don’t; even have to like each other, personally. You don’t have to speak each other’s language. Nobody has to reveal anything and have the discomfort of feeling exposed and vulnerable in bringing awkward thoughts or feeling to the light.

please pay attention to a word of caution:

One word of caution if you desire to give this a try some day and help somebody move though emotional turbulence.

In the first couple of instants when you take the lead for somebody in distress, to follow you energetically, you may feel some wobbles yourself, feel some of the turbulence hitting you.
Know that it is normal.
That is the stage where the auto-tuning system of the follower is not yet sure where to tune into. In these instants , it is the job of the follower to position himself energetically to follow you, as a conscious decision. But the turbulence is still very much present and when the conscious position is not yet completely taken.....the slipstream is not yet completely in the right steady  ‘shape’.
You’ll notice that, sense that, feel that. And if you give that attention, your auto-tuning system will tune into it too.

But if you steadily stick with ‘ tuning into the joy of taking the lead happilyand confidently here and now’, your signal gets stronger and easier for the follower to pick up upon.

You’ll feel it when the other is in your slipstream and tuned in with the auto-tuning system. It gives a boost, as if you feel the wind in your back, if you have been given a set of extra wings.