Blame is a wonderful search tool

Controversy alert:this  blog post may appear to be going against the grain of many (spiritual) teachings.

I live my life nowadays from the understanding:” There are only good things.”
Knowing:
Everything in the wrong hands or used the wrong way can cause harm.

A hammer is a marvellous tool in the hands of a skilled adult, building something, using wood and nails.
It is of little use to the same person using screws.
When phenomena like  a 5-year old child, anger and a glass plate come into the mix, the very same hammer is seen in a different light.
When nobody ever uses nails and wood anymore, its original purpose may even have been forgotten.

If something gets labelled ( by me or others) as intrinsically ‘ bad’, it nowadays usually triggers my curiosity on at least two scores.

·         Why is it considered ‘a good thing’ to call it bad? What advantages does it have to do so?

·         How can it actually be intrinsically a good thing? How can is serve me/us, when it is used according to its real meaning and purpose?

Blame is considered to be a ‘ bad thing’ in the world of self-development.
It is a horror to your soul,  a sin in the eyes of whichever God you call an authority.
It is associated with bad feelings, judgement and cultivating guilt ( bad, bad, bad) and ruins your peace of mind.
It is not loving to blame, seems to be the perceived wisdom.

And now there is me, praising it as a wonderful tool, a search tool related to consulting the knowing.
That may take some explaining, which I’ll do in a preferred way of mine. I do it by comparison: in an analogy.

Blame is very much like a hammer: usually you are pointing with it, adding some force to it to hit the nail right on the head, in order to fix things, to see a connection appear.
That Italic phrase it not only used to refer to DIY tasks in the physical world. It is also a way of expressing that you’ve found the crux in an abstract problem, that needs dealing with, needs solving, needs fixing.

In the physical world, you can make a meaningful sustainable strong connection between two pieces of wood, use nails and a hammer and some force.

In making a solid connection between cause and effect, in an event where two (or more)  people are relating to each other in an undesirably wobbly way, you use........
blame, best applied shamelessly with some force, to really hit the nail on the head.

Now, the interesting thing I find in being a skilled blame user, is to understand that blame’s purpose it not to screw things up, but to assist in fixing things.

How?

First by understanding that applying blame works most effectively when used on the material, not directly on any person involved. Some safety measure to make sure that everybody stays clear from the force is recommendable. I usually do this work alone, to make sure I don’t hit anybody else accidentally.
But, no matter how skilled you are, every now and then, you will hurt somebody, usually yourself, especially when there is a sense of urgency that some repair work needs to be done quickly and in situ.
Luckily, the more skilled you become, the fewer the occasions where blame hurts .

Secondly, in understanding its place as part of the process of finding a suitable solution, using the knowing.
Blame’s purpose is to detect and really pinpoint relevant information in this quest, in order to formulate a sharp and precise request to the knowing.

Formulating a search query  (a question) is part of finding answers, but it is not the answer, yet!

It doesn’t stop here, although I thank blame here for its contribution to the process so far.

Once the nail is sufficiently hit on the head and the connection is surely there and solid, I put the blame tool to the side. I have no desire of damaging anything! It has served its purpose in a wonderful way.

Was I to continue using blame with force, I would do damage.
Where the result of banging on wood for too long is an indentation, the effect on a person applying blame to long and forcefully is guilt. Unnecessary to achieve anything good, I would say.

What is the result so far of applying blame to the material?
It has connected cause and effects with great precision with values.
It has put the whole packet of relevant information about this situation nicely together:  squared, levelled and aligned. Almost at the speed of light, since blame is designed to stick a marker mag(net)ically to anything disharmonious.

A wonderful packet of marked vibrations and energy, containing everything that is relevant to assess this situation (who is involved, what happened and why), is ready to be send to the Knowing.

All it needs now is releasing it. Ask for guidance to solve this situation gracefully, harmoniously, joyfully.... or however you’d like to handle it. Say thanks and anticipate to receive results ( keep an eye open for any relevant information to reach you, as an answer).

Interesting play on words:

I see blame as a wonderful quick tool to gather relevant information with on an energetic level.
Use blame and you are pointing to the clue(s) in a cause and effect series of events that didn’t go according to plan and could do with repairs.
Living in France at the moment:  a clou, the French word for a nail, is in Dutch, my native language also a word for ‘crucial point’.